Words are powerful things especially when it comes to anxiety. Panic attacks and high anxiety is often perpetuated by the ongoing dialogue we have in our minds about what the anxiety symptoms might be, or what might happen, or what we should have done, or what we should be doing. Often we are beating ourselves up with words; calling ourselves names.I have used words in my head to do all of these things. If I ever said them out loud and people disagreed with me, I would just continue the dialogue in my head with “but you don’t understand…” or “but you don’t see the truth..” or “but you’re just saying that…”
However, the fact that words are so powerful in a negative way means they can also be powerful in a positive way. One of the ways you can tap into this is affirmations. I know, they are often portrayed as being said by high flying business people who already have an inflated ego but they really did help me!
I didn’t just pick a phrase and say it though, it needs to counteract the negative things you are already saying. The first thing I did was spend a week catching all the negative things I said to myself. This can be easier said than done because sometimes we don’t even know we are doing it and we can also do it a lot. But I wrote it all done in a notebook. At the end of each day put them into categories and by the end of the week you should have some themes about what you are saying. Some of my negatives were: “I not good enough”, “It is my fault”, “I’m always going to be like this”. There was also lots of ‘should’ statements and the biggy was that I didn’t deserve to get better and live normally.
Once you have these you can start making counter statements for them. You need to at least partly believe them so begin to look for evidence that these statements are not true then write a positive statement. For example to counteract “I’m not good enough” I wrote “I do the best I can every day. This is good enough for the important people in my life. The better I get, the more I will be able to do.” This may not seem the most positive statement ever but at the time it was the most I could believe.
I did this for about 20 different statements. I then copied them out every day for two weeks and after that read them. If I heard myself arguing against this, I tried as much as possible to find evidence to prove my positive statement.
It did get easier, particularly as I felt better and I recommend that if you are struggling with anxiety you give it a go. It alone will not stop it but this, along with other things I have talked about in this blog and will talk about, build up to make things much easier.
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Thank you so much for posting my article. I too have suffered from anxiety at different times in my life and I know how firsthand the how debilitating it can be. I recently lost a cousin who suffered from anxiety since he was a child and couldn’t take it anymore, so he did the unthinkable. So i know what it looks like to go unaddressed as well. Keep up the good work. Thanks for spreading the word about mental illness and hang in there when you think you can’t handle it any longer.
Thank you. I have been very near that point several times but feel more in control now. I sometimes think of anxiety as an addiction though – there is always the urge to retreat and do the things that make it worse like avoiding but these small things can help.